What Is Your Inner Critic Telling You?

What Is Your Inner Critic Telling You?

We all have that little inner critic that tells you false statements and unfortunately, a lot of us allow those 'false' statements to hold us back from moving in the direction we desire.

Have you ever wanted to do something, try something new, look for a new job, meet a new person, put yourself out there and then you hear this little voice in your head saying awful things like:

  • 'You can't do this'
  • 'You are not smart enough'
  • 'You will never be successful'
  • 'You are fat'
  • 'You are not worthy'
  • 'You don't deserve ____'
  • 'You are dumb'
  • 'Nobody will listen to you'
  • 'They won't like you'
When you hear that little voice telling you these things, how does it make you feel?
Does it encourage you to keep moving forward with what you are desiring or does it stop you in your tracks?

Whenever that little voice is telling you that you can't move forward with something that you desire, it is just your FEAR or some even call it your Ego or your 'inner child'. 

This inner voice is simply trying to hold you back and keep you in your 'safe' and 'comfort' zone.

As hard as it is.....Don't Listen to it!

You deserve to have goals and dreams and you also DESERVE to have ALL of them come to fruition!

Be excited for what you want.
See it happening. Believe that it will come true.
See how different your life is going to be because you were BRAVE enough to go after what you wanted.

And, whatever you do, keep taking those imperfect action steps so that you can continue to become a better version of yourself today, than you were yesterday!

If you just don't know how to move past these inner thoughts to help get you moving towards your dreams, this is where the Aroma Freedom Technique may be able to help you move past some of these barriers.  

Want to hear more about the Aroma Freedom Technique?  
Check out the information on our website (www.julietteandgraham.com) for some more helpful information and even a way to connect with me for a quick chat or even set up a one-on-one or group session.

Which Inner Voice Are You Listening To?

Which Inner Voice Are You Listening To?
It was a foggy morning but it was beautiful.  I had already created my ‘To Do List’ for the day but with the pretty fog outside, the ocean was calling me but

we almost didn’t go.......

While getting ready, the internal dialogue going on in my head was incredible and it was bouncing back and forth from positive talk to negative talk.  

‘It’s going to be so great to go for a walk’ to ‘Your feet are going to hurt…is it worth it?’
‘You are going to feel so great after your walk’ to ‘You’re not going to get everything done today if you waste time going for a walk’.
‘You have to go out to get some groceries so you’re going to be out anyways’ to ‘It’s going to be cold outside; you should stay inside…change what you are going to cook and use what you have instead’
‘You already have enough on your plate for today, why are you adding more?  Stop procrastinating on what you need to do’ to ‘You should stay home and get more stuff down around the house, you can go tomorrow’.

Yup, lots of banter and all because I wanted to go for a walk.  

Crazy right?  You know what’s even crazier?  

That I used to listen to this banter and it would deter me in the past.  I would cave in to my own inner thoughts and allow them to hold me back from doing something positive for myself.

I find it so interesting that I can now recognize when this is happening and I am empowering myself to choose to make a better choice.  

I have always had the ability to do this, I just chose not to. 

I did the Mel Robbins 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and just left my partially enjoyed cup of coffee on the counter, got changed out of my warm and comfy jammies and right into my workout clothes and out the door, I was determined not to let my inner voice stop us from going on our walk.   

Part way through our walk, I even said to my husband, ‘I am so glad we went for our walk’.  I could feel the change in my mood and my energy, just by getting out of the house, being in nature, moving my body and of course, getting a little ocean time didn’t hurt either….LOL.   The added bonus, I gave myself a high-five as I realized that I didn’t allow my inner voice to stop me this morning and it was such a great feeling.

Sure, it took away some time from working on other things on my ‘To Do List’ but what’s more important than taking care of your physical and mental health?  

For me…..Nothing!  

Today’s walk was just another positive step of me putting myself and some self-care first and foremost above everything else.  The dishes and the laundry can wait…my physical and mental health never deserved to be on the backburner and every positive action step I take helps me prove to myself that I’m worthy of taking the time for self-care and my body will thank me.

Progress Over Perfection....

Progress Over Perfection....
Progress Over Perfection....

As we wrap up 2021, it's a great time to reflect back on the year and to celebrate ALL of our progress through the year.

The key is NOT to focus on the perfection and that 'I could have done ____ better'.

Do not beat yourself up or talk poorly to yourself for things that did not go well or as planned.
Did you have a goal or a vision for something that has not come to fruition yet?

That's OK!  Maybe it went exactly how it was supposed to go.....have you ever thought of that?

I too struggle with 'Perfection', but then think.....who decided what 'Perfection' is? 

Perfection is different to each of us.

Perfection stops us from taking action, it stops you dead in your tracks from moving forward, it keeps you spinning and at times down a very dark unhealthy and self-defeating path and for what reason....because we fear of what others will think, that we will fail, etc. I could go on and on with all of the ways that striving for 'perfection' has literally stopped me in so many ways and for ALL of the wrong reasons.

What we need to remember is that failing, making mistakes, all of it is part of the process. This is what makes us better. This is what helps encourage us to 'tweak', 'pivot' or 'adjust your crown', however you see it.

When babies are learning to walk...do they often wobble and fall?
Do you think Wayne Gretzky was a #1 hockey player when he 1st picked up a hockey stick?
Were the Wright Brothers successful in taking flight on their 1st attempt to fly a plane?

The answer to all of these is a resounding NO. 

But what did they ALL do?

They kept trying, they kept practicing, they kept tweaking what they were doing and because of their consistency and their tenacity....they slowly and surely got better and succeeded in their goals. 

They did not allow 'perfection' from stopping them.

NO ONE is perfect, even though we all have people in our lives that think they are....they really aren't!

So, today, celebrate the progress over perfection you experienced this year and may you keep the momentum going into 2022.   

And if fear is still holding you back, may 2022 be the year you break free from those limiting beliefs, take action on things that are important to you and start letting your light shine brightly by empowering yourself to take progress over perfection each and every day!


Our thoughts are SO powerful.  

Our thoughts can either propel us closer to our goals or keep us locked into fear, shame and self-doubt.

We all have dreams and aspirations but do you actually believe that your dreams will come true?

Are you doing whatever you need to make those dreams come true?

Do you believe that you are worthy of your dreams?

Are you allowing other peoples ideas, thoughts, words, judgements to hold you back?  

Are you allowing what others say to you, do to you or you are perceiving them to say to you, stop you from doing what you want to do?

I know I have!!!  

And I can now recognize that it has affected me my entire life and I’m working on re-writing the script and creating new neuropathways to let go of these old beliefs and beliefs that never belonged to me in the first place. 

I have been hurt physically, mentally, lied to, deceived, used and manipulated.  I trust that those that come into my life have good intentions and take people at their word.  And over and over again, those I have let in have hurt me in various ways and some to the core.  And when this hurt happens, it makes me feel like I wasn’t worthy and yet, what I should be thinking is that they are not worthy of me.

When you continually hear negative statements or judgements from those you know and love,
you tend to believe them…and why?  

Because you trust them and yet, the only person we should be trusting is ourselves.  

Other people’s perceptions, ideas, and judgements are theirs and you should NEVER take them to heart.  
You have to remember that some people, not all, but some, don’t want to see you succeed.  
They want to see you fail or make you look bad so that they feel better about themselves.   

The good news is that you get to decide what you believe to be true and should focus on that.  You can certainly hear what they have to say but STOP letting other people’s negative thoughts, words, and actions stick to you like crazy glue.  The words they are speaking over you ARE NOT the truth.   Don’t take on their negativity and allow the beliefs in yourself to diminish.  Stop giving others that power.  Instead, empower yourself to recognize when this is happening and reaffirm to yourself that you ARE worthy of everything you desire.

See, when you want something but you doubt that it will come true, it won’t.  Why?  Because you don’t believe that it will come true or that we deserve it.  When you believe in the negativity of our thoughts, that is what you are putting out into the universe and that is what you will receive and you attract more of the same.   

This week I encountered an issue and I kept saying to myself ‘I can’t figure this out’ and I would end up in tears.  My mind kept replaying all of the negative words and feelings I have felt in the past, that I’m not good enough, I won’t figure it out, I’m not smart enough, I should just quit, I’m a nobody, I am dumb, I’m on the wrong path….all of these negative thoughts and words kept me frozen in self-doubt.  I started looking to others for help and I was spinning my wheels in ‘negativity land’ and it was getting me nowhere and nowhere fast.  

I attended an Aroma Freedom Session by one of my mentors this week around Trust.  And while I started off working on learning to trusting in my abilities, through the session it led me to work through several situations where I have been hurt in the past by loved ones where my trust has been broken.  Once I worked through those feelings and memories, I was able to let them go and move forward.  

I practiced my new affirmation and changed my mindset.   When I started to say ‘I can’t do this’, I recognized what I was saying and flipped it to say ‘I got this…I can figure this out’.  

Once I flipped the words from negative to a positive, I gave myself permission to figure it out,
I believed that I could figure it out and I did.  

I AM Worthy!   

And when I was able to cancel my trip to ‘negativity land’ and allow myself to believe in myself and my abilities, it reaffirmed that I can do this.  I truly can do anything I want to do, if I just believe in myself.  I don’t need to have all of the answers, it doesn’t need to be perfect (even though I want it to be), what I truly need to do is to believe that I am capable and worthy.

As a result of the Aroma Freedom Technique session around ‘Trust’ this week, I ended up believing in myself and allowing myself to shine.    

Today, I worked with another mentor where she had us do this exercise to write down ‘I AM WORTHY’ 100 times.  And when we write them, we need to believe that what we are writing is true.  And yes, there were a few times when I wrote these words down that I could feel my belief slip to the negative and I could even see it in my letters, usually at the word ‘AM’, my printing would change.  

I truly believe that people come into our lives for a reason, a purpose or a lesson.  

There’s a reason why I have encountered this lack of belief this week, why these lessons were placed in front of me and why I made the time to be present in each of these lessons.

I AM WORTHY and I was meant to see it and believe it this week.  
Thank You Universe for giving me these gifts and lessons this week and
for bringing these mentors into my life.  
I am truly grateful and I AM ready to let my light shine!  

“Life is simple.  Everything happens for you, not to you.  
Everything happens at exactly the right moment, 
neither too soon nor too late.  
You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”
Byron Katie

Whatever The New Month Is Brining For You......

Whatever The New Month Is Brining For You......
'Whatever The New Month is Bringing for You, be it good or bad; 
Always Keep That Smile On Your Face No Matter What'  ~ Unknown

I really liked this quote and hesitated to post it as I know it can be taken in different ways. So, let me explain....

I feel this quote at the beginning of the month is great way to remind you that NO MATTER what is thrown your way this month that you will be OK and that you will come through it!

It ties in with Mel Robbin's High Five Habit in the mirror where we are smiling at ourselves and celebrating anything and everything amazing about ourselves!  

There is always something to be grateful for and proud of....Always!!!!

It also ties in with incorporating the practice of Daily Gratitude everyday.

Even on the hard days, finding something to be grateful for is just the boost of love you need to help get through a tough moment, day or week. It's so easy for us to focus on the negatives and that only attracts more of it to you....so, focus on the positives and attract more of that your way instead.

As for the other way to perceive this quote, I want to clarify that I am NOT saying that it's not OK to not be OK and that we should pretend that everything is always rainbows and unicorns....because, let's face it, it's not. And that's OK.

I am a firm believer in reaching out for help you need it.

I do not believe in pushing your emotions under the rug and not dealing with them. I've been there and I've done it and I can confirm that while it may work for a bit, it's not sustainable and it's not healthy AT ALL.

Avoiding your emotions and feelings does not solve the issue and it certainly does not make it go away. I have learned from my own experience that eventually you will reach your breaking point and when that happens, the smallest things/issues can trigger you for no particular reason and you just can't explain why. All that stuff you have been sweeping under the rug is now seeping out and there's no more room for more.

Please don't let it get to that point. Seek help. Talk to someone you trust or a professional.

Here's to you having an amazing month, keep practicing your new habits, keep being kind to yourself and keep shining your pearly whites.  

This month is going to be a great one!

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