Changing Your Mindset Or Habits
Before you can change a habit or your mindset, you first need to identify what you want to change, once you know what you want to change, then you can create a game plan around how to make those changes happen and shift your focus accordingly.
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." ~ Leo Tolstoy
For example, towards the end of my last relationship I needed to identify what qualities I was looking for and what qualities I was no longer going to settle for. While you may think this is hooky, it actually worked. I found an amazing man that I am lucky to have as my husband and my best friend. I focused on what I wanted, was aware of what I no longer wanted and accepted nothing less than that.
This exercise can be used in all areas of your lives, especially when you want to change a habit or even your mindset.
STEP ONE: Make a list of 'What is no longer acceptable to you' and 'What are the things that you must do'? I created a simple graphic for you to use or you can just use pen and paper. At the bottom of the list, I even included a few examples.
STEP TWO: Review your list and pick just one of the items in the 'Must Do' column to focus on it for the next 30 days and notice what happens. If you want to focus on more, that's your call but start with one to get started and add on others each month going forward.
Change takes time, consistency, patience and a lot of grace so don't overwhelm yourself with trying to change everything in one swoop. That's not attainable or sustainable.
STEP THREE: Comment below what is the one item you are going to focus on for the next 30 days. When we put our goals out to the universe you become more accountable and others can also cheer you on and support you, if you want help.
STEP FOUR: Keep track of the changes you are noticing over the next 30 days. We will follow up to see how everyone is doing and share what you each have experienced.
STEP FIVE: Share what you have experienced in the past 30 days.
"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new." ~ Socrates